Position sometimes comes with power. Everyone craves powerful positions but only few merit them. To know the true nature of a man, expose him to power and position, then you will see his true colour. It is fallacy to believe you are a leader because you occupy a position. If that’s what leadership is about, anybody can do it and anyone will excel at it. But it goes beyond that; people don’t follow leaders just because of their position or influence.
Yes, influence makes people to emulate you as a person. But do you know that people can emulate you and might not follow you? Do you also know that people might work with you because of your position, yet they might not follow you? People only follow leaders, and this is why you should determine to be the kind of person that people will follow. A husband whose wife is not following most times disagrees with the wife. It is at such times that you hear the man say, “I am the head of this house”.
When men begin to place emphasis on their position, then you should know that they are trying to conscript the people to follow them. Also, some line managers impose a fine to punish people working with them just to get them to do a task. When that happens, they are also trying to conscript the people working with them to follow them. Followership cannot be enforced, it must be earned.
No doubt, influence is important in leadership, it could get you into position. But beyond that, there are attributes people look out for before they choose to follow anyone they see as a leader. People follow leaders who care, leaders they trust, leaders they respect, leaders they can approach and leaders they admire.
1. Leaders who care
This is a very important attribute. This is because everyone somehow wants to get value for value. People do it unconsciously and sometimes consciously. Care creates an influence that is far reaching and long lasting in the mind of people. When the mind share of that person is won by his leader, he becomes a faithful follower. This was why Dalai Lama, a Buddhist leader, said “We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection.” Human affection is shown when a leader shows keen concern over those around him. This is the reason the leader wins their loyalty and they choose to follow him. As a husband to your wife, pay keen interest and care for your wife’s emotional, psychological, physical and spiritual needs. When you do that, there will be no need to conscript her to follow you. She will naturally follow you.
2. Leaders they trust
This is often a difficult one for people. Trust is earned and not just given. People develop trust for a leader based on his displayed character over time. When they are able to determine his character based on his reaction in certain situations and their experience with him over time, they associate it with his integrity. A wife has no reason not to be at rest over a faithful husband. The man might have been faithful to her for years. But a man that goes after any lady in sight will leave his wife restless. It works the same way with leadership, a leader that has been tested over time with no traces of character flaws wins people to follow him.
3. Leaders they respect
Respect is attached to competence. When a leader demonstrates competence in situations that others shy away from, he earns respect. A wife looks up to the husband for direction when faced with chaotic situations in the home. If the husband proffers solution, he earns the respect of the wife. The wife begins to see him as a solution provider to chaotic situations. If he demonstrates such competence over and over again, the wife begins to follow his directions without being conscripted. Once you demonstrate competence at work, or anywhere you find yourself, be sure that people will tend to follow you.
4. Leaders they can approach
People relate with those they can approach. These sets of people don’t immediately condemn people when they present their issues before them. Instead, they empathise with them and look for possible ways to proffer solutions. They don’t put on a high look to scare people from them. They are open with a warm spirit, always ready to receive people. Such leaders are consistent in their relationship with others.
5. Leaders they admire
Before people can look at a person with admiration, there must be something he or she is doing right. One thing that makes people admire a leader is his commitment to his cause. A female eagle before committing to a male eagle will always test his commitment to provide. Once the male eagle displays his commitment, he wins his place of leadership over the female eagle.
(I) Integrity – Builds relationship on trust.
(N) Nurturing – Cares about people as individuals.
(F) Faith – Believes in people.
(L) Listening – Values what others have to say.
(U) Understanding – Sees from their point of view.
(E) Enlarging – Helps others to become bigger.
(N) Navigating – Assists others through difficulties.
(C) Connecting – Initiates positive relationships.
(E) Empowering – Gives them the power to lead.
This is what it means to lead beyond your position!