A leader might get to a point where he or she is stressed. At such point he could get irritable or touchy or display some other negative emotion.
This could be due to a major challenge, possibly one that has led to bad experiences. Unfortunately, some leaders relate with followers and others based on their experiences.
This is bad for a leader. Imagine a man relating with his wife based on his past negative experiences. Or a lady who was raped while she was young judging her husband and other men by her unfortunate experience?
Imagine an entrepreneur judging a vendor by a bad experience with another vendor?
These often lead to disasters.
So, when faced with challenges caused by bad experiences, there are three things you should know.
1. It is not permanent
Situations are subject to change; the challenge will not last forever. Every situation has an expiry date. I mean a time when it will end. Do you know that when something good happens to some people they are afraid it will not last? On the contrary, when something bad happens to them, they believe it will last forever. Why? The challenge may appear too overwhelming.
But a leader will turn every challenge to a learning point and eventually a turning point.
2. Stay on Course
A challenge cannot destroy your dream, except you will it to. No matter how traumatic the challenge may be, move on and embrace change. Once you do this you can be sure that it won’t affect your attitude and you will maintain the influence you had before you faced the challenge.
3. Don’t take it personal
You are not the only one going through this kind of challenge. It is so surprising to see people own bad situations and not the good things. They believe good things just came along, but they own bad circumstances. You often hear them ask, “Why does this always happen to me?” “Why do I always fail at doing this?” “What did I do to deserve this?”. They often ask , “Why me” questions.
If you accept bad situations or challenges, it will affect your attitude, and the way you relate with others.
Are you leader? Of course you are!
Let your challenges spur you to transformation and successful leadership.