At some point in your life, the chances are that you’ve been told that intelligence trumps all. You’ve probably also heard that you need to study for several hours for you to get that intelligence. Alongside that is the fact that you must read and amass as much knowledge as you can. Now, all of these are true, and they are quite admirable actually. However, they don’t do much in the area of helping you to build emotional intelligence.

If you are still a bit new to the term, allow me to clarify. Emotional intelligence, put simply, refers to your relatively measurable ability to manage and understand your emotions. It also puts into consideration how you react to and relate with other people’s emotions as well.

Sadly, while a lot of focus is placed on being mentally intelligent, the importance of emotional intelligence is often understated. That is the reason we will be focusing on the topic today.

What Benefits do you stand to Gain Improving your Emotional Intelligence?

If you are familiar with sales and marketing, you would know that if you are trying to sell an idea or a product to someone, you should be able to show them what they stand to gain from adopting/buying it. As such, here are three main benefits of improving your emotional intelligence:

  • It helps you to relate better with other people in the world around you.
  • We are largely driven by our emotions. However, depending on your level of emotional intelligence, you’d be able to master your emotions such that you won’t be a slave to every feeling you have.
  • You’d become a better man, husband, and father when you can properly manage your emotions and understand that of those around you.
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How do you improve your Emotional Intelligence?

There are a number of ways to go about it. However, these five should be able to assist you if you are looking to become a master of your emotions.

  1. Understand and Regulate Yourself

Find out what makes you tick and understand what makes you act the way you do. Great ways to do this include journaling and taking time to meditate, among others. Ensure that you minimize the use of social media during this period as it can be a distraction.

Once you are able to understand yourself and your emotions, try to regulate them. Now, it is not possible to directly control your emotions. However, you can control what these emotions make you do. So, next time you’re angry, limit outburst. The next time you’re sad, do not take it out on others.

  1. Be Empathetic

Your emotions aren’t the only things that matter; those of others do as well. So, try not to become so self-centred that you begin to dismiss the emotions of other people. Be kind to them and validate their emotions. You can easily do this by putting yourself in the shoes of other people, paying attention to body language, and even responding to feelings.

  1. Be Self-motivated

Far too often, people place too much attention on the emotional strength they can get from others. Now, don’t get me wrong. You should be able to work with others and collaborate. However, a great way to improve your emotional intelligence is by motivating yourself. Do not always depend on that motivational speaker to fire you up. If you are having trouble doing so, allow me to borrow the words of Nike and say, “just do it!”

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Emotional intelligence, if mastered, has the potential to set you apart from others. You’ll be calmer, more effective and less susceptible to the ups and downs of your feelings. Improve on it today!