Whenever sex is mentioned, especially in religious circles, most people put on a “what-are-you-talking-about” look as though it doesn’t affect them. But we all know that it does. No matter how religious you are, you have to admit that sexual urge is natural and you cannot satisfy it by fasting and prayer or any other spiritual discipline. As a normal adult male, you will experience sexual urge even when your mind is devoid of sexual thoughts. So, rather than turning a blind eye, we must learn to address it within the right context.
Most of us were not told the truth as children and teenagers whilst some of us were told 99% truth plus 1% lie. But 99% truth plus 1% lie is equal to deception! Quite unconsciously, many people have imbibed the lie that God is against sex — that He doesn’t want people to enjoy themselves. But really, this is not true. God created sex and even blessed it! He owns the trademark and it bears His signature. And like any manufacturer or service provider, He included terms and conditions – sex is meant to be enjoyed and protected within the context of a committed and loving relationship, between a man and a woman in the lifelong covenant of marriage.
Sex is best enjoyed in marriage. In marriage, a man and a woman can enjoy intimacy with each other without fear of abandonment, betrayal, or disease; and within this type of relationship with a stable mother and father, children can be best cared for and raised to healthy maturity. God created sex to be enjoyed between a married man and woman; not between individuals who are not married to one another as in pre-marital sex, free love or extramarital sex; and not between members of the same sex, as in homosexuality.
These restrictions are not meant to spoil our fun. Rather, they are meant to shield us from avoidable grief and devastating heartaches. Sex outside of marriage comes with many problems, a few of which include disease, unwanted pregnancy and uncared for children, guilt and emotional trauma. Consequently, it is in our best interest that we heed the gospel of abstinence, fidelity and sexual purity. However, for those who have caused themselves a lot of grief before realising this, there is still hope. Our attitude towards such people should be compassion, not condemnation.