Lukman Aderoke, Abeokuta, Ogun state wrote:

Dear Counsellor, I’m married to a beautiful wife with two kids. The challenge I’ve been facing is that I love to have sex every day and my wife has been complaining about it.

Even if my wife fails to oblige me, I can go out and even pay to have sex. I have sex with anything under the skirt. I have sex for leisure. I have sex to relieve stress. Help!!! What should I do?


Lukman, the beauty of marriage is when it provides fulfilment for both parties. This applies to every aspect of marriage including sex. Beyond satisfying your sexual urge, you should seek to make your wife sexually fulfilled. Both of you need to have a frank discussion and agree on a workable regime, with some concession from both parties. As regards the challenge of desiring sex with anything in skirts, you need to discipline yourself to keep your mind positively engaged. As the saying goes, an idle hand is the devil’s workshop. Determine to stay committed to your marital vow even when it is difficult. It is also important that you own up to a respected authority that can hold you accountable. Furthermore, always think of new ways to delight your wife and express your love to her. That way, you can even make her desire sex more often! Besides, when you’re busy loving your wife, you will not have the mental space and other resources to play around with another woman. Like the wise man asked, why will you be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger? Imagine the shame, pain and disappointment that come with it eventually?