What are relationships? We can define relationships between men and women as mutual connections. They build these connections with specific goals in mind – for instance, marriage. But often relationships take a dark turn. Now read the story of this young man:
Our house is something you can call or refer to as the middle-class level standard. Of course not too bad, but my eyes are upon the high-class girls. I just love anything gorgeous in a lady. I mean that I can’t just keep my eyes off this particular girl whose steppings thrill me. We met at a fast-food joint somewhere in our area. My eyes gazed strictly on the T.V as a very romantic movie was being played. It wasn’t only me; my younger brother Tale was with me. Then came in this babe, looking all sparkling; and don’t forget I have always been a good fan of these elegant classes of girls. You can’t understand; their sight is always irresistible! Her walking steps were really edible and opulent. She smelt like an angel. I guess I was overwhelmed by all these facts because I had always dreamt of people like that. So, I stood up and turned facing her as though it was a coincidence we were almost hitting each other, Oh! Sorry! Ouch sorry! We exchanged. Hi, she said. I quickly replied: Do you know that you resemble my sister? “Oh really?” was her reply. Definitely, after I had staged the drama, she laughed. Then we continued until I succeeded in taking her to my seat. As a gentleman will do, I offered to be responsible for her orders: “You know what? Such a girl like you deserves to be compensated after a gentleman almost … you know?” There I was, bragging on what I couldn’t afford. The funny thing about it was that she didn’t reply. But after two winks, her reply was spontaneous, “Oh yeah, why not?” I was happy! Yesssss!!! “Smart Wilson! Come on, Wilson. You did it!” I said to myself!
My brother was totally engrossed with the movie on the screen. “Oh meet my brother his name is Tale. Brov, meet my new friend Malinda.” Fast-forward, after the discussion for the day, I had succeeded in spending the money I was meant to use to purchase my hand-out in school on Monday. And this was a Saturday. She took a taxi-drop, while I pretended as if my car was parked across the street. So when we saw that she was far gone in the Taxi, where we stood waving, my brother and I simply opted for Option B, “Let’s trek home!” How do I reconcile this meeehnn?! Hmmm… My brother took a good look at me with such hate, and there I knew that, if eyes were gun, Tale would have shot me ten times with a double-barrel and AK-47 Assault-riffle simultaneously!!! He didn’t talk to me again for the whole weekend.
That didn’t stop me from fixing “dates” with her. And so we met subsequently at various planned eateries, which resulted in either I ended up exhausting my small pocket money, or I had to borrow money and sometimes my friend’s TIMBERLAND Boot to impress my babe. Her looks scattered my brain each time I sighted her in her gorgeous look.
All for the sake of love, I had received several calls from Malinda to meet her various demands from one end to another end; #12, 000 to make her hair but she was left with only #4,000. She always wanted to go to the movies every Friday. She told me sometime ago that her most treasured thing is, guess what? “Shoes!” Two pairs of shoes from me to Malinda every month was constant, the least of the shoes she wore was for #6,000. It was becoming too much on my neck, and I had always wanted to tell her to her face that she is too expensive to maintain. But each time we saw, I would have rehearsed what I wanted to say, so immediately we see, she would hug me, “Oh darling thank you!!! You are such a wonderful gentleman…”, and then the only statement that would proceed from my mouth was, “Do you love the shoes???” Guess Malinda’s response? “I will manage it, well I have to buy a suitable bag with it, when will you give me the money?” The effect of the hug would still be on me, so I would want to prove that I’m a capable guy, you know?!” I will simply dip my hand into my pocket and, “My bag is #15,000, I will loan you #5,000, are you a capable man?”, Oh my God! She would just touch the ego inside me, then my “Mumu Button is pressed again.” Before I know what is happening again, my pocket and bank account is empty again!!! Shit!
I had to practically drink “Gari” with “Kulikuli” on several occasions. Funny enough, every time I asked her about my proposal to marry her, she always told me that I should give her time to think about it, and Eight (10) Months is gone.
Hmmm… I love this girl, but, she is too expensive for me to maintain and satisfy. What do I do???”
Here is someone’s story, and surely it is a similar case with several young men out there. If you feel, think, or know that you cannot financially satisfy the exorbitant or outrageous financial demands of a woman, back off. In relationships, One partner shouldn’t live a glamourous life at the expense of the other. Please don’t choke yourself. It is fine to call her attention to it early enough so that there could be some adjustment and understanding in her spending. But if you think she is the type who will not negotiate all that, and she doesn’t want to be considerate with you, it is wise to realise that girl is not meant for you.
Being honest with oneself can solve a lot of troubles. Relationships are founded on mutual understanding, joy, and fulfilment, and not the other way round!
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