Preparation, they say, is the mother of manifestation. Preparation will save you from error and failure. To succeed in life we must be committed to discipline and adequate preparation. Success does not come by chance or luck, it comes by preparing for it.

People who are enjoying and succeeding in marriage are those who took time to prepare and plan for their marital life. You don’t prepare in marriage, you prepare for marriage. Marriage is not a wedding ceremony that you can start preparing for few weeks/months to the date. For you to succeed in marriage you must start preparing for it early enough. My desire is to see marriages succeed and godly families raised especially in this our generation.

After reading many of my articles, one of my subscribers was forced to ask if I am married. When I answered “No”, she was surprised.

“Wow! You ain’t married, yet you know a lot about relationship and marriage?”

I smiled and replied that what I know and teach about relationship are products of the inspired messages I receive from the Holy Spirit through my fellowship with Him, studying and meditating on God’s word and what I’ve learnt from books, seminars and conferences about relationship and marriage. In fact, I never knew I would have to coach people on love and relationship, my aim was for personal consumption because I desire a successful and blissful marriage.

A great marriage doesn’t just happen; it is a product of a prepared man and prepared woman coming together. My question for you is: Are you preparing for marriage?

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You don’t have to be ready before you start preparing for marriage. In fact, you don’t need to be in any relationship before you start preparing for marriage. Start now!

As a man, you need to prepare and learn. Learn how to be a good husband and father. Learn how to be a good leader. No woman wants a ruler for a husband, every woman wants a leader. Learn how to make a woman happy, learn how to give – husbands are not stingy, they are givers. Learn how to save and learn how to raise godly kids.

Learn how to have multiple streams of income because when you get married, you may need more than a source of income to cater for your family. Cultivate a close relationship with God now and learn how to hear from God. God always speaks to the head/leader about what He wants to do. “And the LORD said, Shall I hide from Abraham that thing which I do?” (Genesis 18:17).

Finally, allow God to prepare you. God is always willing to prepare us for what He has prepared for us. Maintain a close relationship with God and let Him mould you as clay in the potter’s hand. Never rush out of the divine making process of God. Everything God is making you to pass through is to prepare you to be who He created you to be. You will not fail in marriage in Jesus’ name.


Tunde Awoyele is a Love and Relationship Coach, a tireless advocate of godly relationship and sexual purity, a writer and a conference speaker. He hosts Relationship Conference tagged SINGLES’ TIME-OUT, a platform through which he equips young adults with the knowledge they need to GET IT RIGHT and DO IT RIGHT in their relationships as they prepare for marriage and family life. You can connect with him on BBM: 55A570C7 or send a mail to letalpage @


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