In our society today, it is relatively easy to dismiss masculine emotions simply because of our gender. However, we cannot blame the society a hundred percent for this because we also don’t open up too often. In a bid to demonstrate or build self-confidence, we are usually doing so many things that might not even solve the problem.
Sometimes, it works and you successfully project the image of one who is perfectly comfortable with himself and all else. However, if we are to be honest, we know that there are other times that a bit of cheering on would help. This is the reason for this article. You’re a man, not a god, and sometimes, you need a few tips on how to build self-confidence.
How do you build self-confidence?
It involves a series of actions and you absolutely cannot expect it to happen overnight. Here are a few things, out of many, that you can do to lift those spirits and that level of confidence, too:
1. Groom Yourself
It is very easy to say looks don’t matter and that you don’t care how people perceive you. However, you know as well as we do that that is not entirely true. The truth, as a matter of fact, is that looks do matter. It isn’t all that matters but it definitely matters. Additionally, humans are social animals. We crave the validation of others. Grooming yourself only becomes bad when you get overly addicted and you’re constantly obsessing over your looks.
Our point with all of these is that if you do not properly groom yourself, people will treat you as rough as you look. In turn, it will affect your self-confidence. So, before you go out tomorrow morning, get a nice shaving cream, and give the beard a nice trim or a comb through. Spend some extra time in the shower to work out all that sweat and grime. Afterwards, pick up some nice clothes and strut confidently.
2. Get Comfortable with Rejection
You might not want to talk about it, but as men, we all know that rejection hurts. Whether it is at work, or with a potential lover, it can be deeply depressing. While the feeling is completely normal and human, you shouldn’t let it be your controlling emotion. The truth is that the same way you prefer someone or something over another is the way others perceive you. It does not necessarily mean you’re not good enough sir. So, next time you get your idea rejected at work or that girl says the all too painful “no,” remind yourself that it does not deplete your value in anyway.
3. Remind yourself that you are valuable
Occasionally, our minds tend to fall into these pits where we start seeing ourselves as less than we actually are. It happens to men more often than they might care to admit. As such, you should occasionally let yourself know that you are every bit as good as are. If you need to say it in front of a mirror or you need to repeat it on your way to work, do so. Just don’t forget.
Before you can feel the effects of any of these, it might be a while. Things like this take time to become permanent. The key is to remain consistent. Eventually, your brain will catch on and you can walk around with your head up high!