Whether you choose to agree with it or not, life comes at you in phases. In some of them, you are financially capable of getting your apartment and you don’t have to deal with a difficult roommate. However, there are other times when you aren’t so privileged. As a bachelor, or a student, the chances are that you’re in that stage of your life right now.
Sometimes, you might be lucky enough to get someone who is God fearing, friendly, kind, etc. Other times, not so much. If you find yourself in the unfortunate situation that is the latter, here are three ways you can live with a difficult roommate:
1. Set Boundaries
As a humans, we all have things we do not like as well as things that we would much rather not deal with. It might interest you to know that sometimes, the only reason you keep having fights with that difficult roommate is because they don’t actually know what they’re doing wrong. It might be easy to vilify them whenever they drink your last bottle of water. But, it is a lot more rewarding to simply tell them not to. If you would not like them to go through your stuff without your permission, tell them. You can’t just expect them to know. Set your boundaries and make them crystal clear.
Many people have this preconceived notion in their head that men have issues with communication. More often than not, we are regarded as the gender who keeps their emotions bottled up, say less and do more. However, it does not always have to be so. We humans didn’t go through hundreds of thousands of years of evolution just to keep quiet. Especially now when all we need is proper communication to solve a problem.
So, with your roommate, ensure that you talk about whatever issues you might have. Considering that (both of) you are sharing a living space, you cannot afford to keep things in. Whenever a boundary is crossed, be sure to let them know. Did s/he pick up something of yours you’d have rather kept personal? Say it out loud and be assertive. If you go in the opposite direction here, you’ll be doing yourself a lot more harm than good because you’ll be piling up anger. Remember that pent up emotion always eventually finds an ugly way to come out.
3. Evaluate Yourself
As hard as it is to face this, there is also the possibility that you are the problem. This is perfectly understandable. If you were raised to stay alone with no one constantly looking into your business, you might not adjust easily to living with someone else. As such, before you go all out and get mad at your roommate, ensure that you aren’t the problem. Next time you’re about to get angry with them, ask yourself if you’re being tolerant enough. This can only be achieved if you try to calm down before you take action.
If you are the type of person who really fancies his privacy, you might not be too thrilled living with someone. However, it is not always an avoidable circumstance. The best thing you can do is to learn how to live with a roommate, however difficult they may be.